My husband said young nannies had more energy, and I believed him. But late one night, I discovered the disturbing truth behind his hiring rule — and everything changed.
I’m 38, a mom of three: Ava is nine, Mason is six, and Lily just turned three.
I’ve been married to Reed, who’s 41, for over 12 years. On the outside, our life was your classic suburban minivan cliché, until I saw something I shouldn’t have.
Life with my family consisted of normal things, such as Saturday Costco runs, swim lessons, and birthday parties with bounce houses. There were also the parent-teacher association meetings, which I never had time for.
But I always felt guilty about missing them.
I thought everything was normal in our household.
Apparently, I was living in a fantasy.
I still can’t believe what happened.
It feels like something taken from a trashy TV drama like “The Jerry Springer Show,” except it was my life, my marriage, and my family. Maybe sharing my experience will help someone see the signs sooner.
Honestly, looking back, the red flags were there.
Reed always insisted we hire nannies.
I still can’t believe what happened.
He insisted on this even when our monthly budget tightened, and even when we moved out of state and didn’t know anyone. My husband made it sound like he was looking out for me.
“I just want you to relax more,” he’d say, kissing my forehead. “You deserve and need help.”
It felt sweet, thoughtful, generous even.
I was stretched thin, juggling part-time work, the kids’ school schedules, and the endless laundry monster that lived in our hallway.
“You deserve and need help.”
So, if he wanted to handle childcare hiring, I didn’t argue.
But he had one nonnegotiable requirement.
“She has to be under 25,” he said, almost offhandedly, like he was picking a pizza topping.
“Younger girls have more energy, right?” I joked. “Maybe one of them can keep up with Lily’s sugar highs.”
“Exactly. It’s practical.”
At the time, I believed him.
“She has to be under 25.”
The nannies came and went like a revolving door!
Some had long hair and cropped sweatshirts.
Others even did TikTok choreography in the kitchen with the kids.
They giggled a lot and wore oversized cardigans over tank tops that did little to hide what they weren’t wearing underneath. One literally would quit every few months — sometimes less.
I assumed they found the job overwhelming.
The nannies came and went like a revolving door!
I mean, our house was a zoo on its best day, and Lily could throw tantrums like it was her Olympic sport. The thought that they might have left for any reason other than the chaos never really crossed my mind.
I trusted Reed. I trusted him completely.
Spoiler: it wasn’t the job that chased them away.
Then came Kaylan. She was 22, with brick-red hair and a quiet, almost dreamy presence. Kaylan wrote poetry in a little leather-bound notebook she always carried. She was more introverted than the rest.
It wasn’t the job that chased them away.
Kaylan wore no makeup and only long skirts.
She possessed a softness I hadn’t seen in the others.
The kids loved her! She made them peanut butter apple snacks shaped like animals, left handwritten notes in Ava’s lunchbox, and even taught Mason to tie his shoes when he got too frustrated for me to try!
She also taught Ava cursive and made fun treasure hunts in the backyard.
The kids loved her!
I started to breathe more easily.
For the first time in a long time, I didn’t feel suspicious or on edge. I liked and trusted her.
That trust was shattered one night just after 11. I had been working late in the home office on some paperwork for a freelance deadline and realized I’d left my laptop on the living room couch.
Everyone was supposed to be asleep — the hallway was dark, the house was quiet.
That trust was shattered one night just after 11.
I tiptoed downstairs to grab it, but I noticed that the lamp in the living room was still on.
I walked in, and my body froze!
Kaylan was sitting on the couch, her knees tucked under her. Reed was beside her. He sat too close. His hand was resting on her bare shoulder. It lingered there, as if it belonged!
Kaylan flinched as soon as she saw me. Her eyes went wide!
He sat too close.
Reed looked up, cool as ever.
“Oh! Marissa — hey,” he said, as if I’d just interrupted a movie review.
I didn’t move. I couldn’t. My heartbeat roared in my ears. Kaylan scrambled to speak.
“I was feeling dizzy. Your husband was helping me.”
The way she said it, the way her voice trembled, and her body stiffened — I didn’t need more explanation. My stomach dropped straight through the floor!
“Oh! Marissa — hey…”
I turned around and walked away.
That night, Mason suddenly fell ill, throwing up after dinner. I needed to take him to urgent care, but couldn’t leave Ava and Lily alone.
Reed was working late, so I called Kaylan and asked if she could stay just a bit longer until I got back.
She agreed right away. But by 11 p.m., she was supposed to be long gone, as Reed offered he’d drop her off when he got back from work.
She agreed right away.
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Two days later, Kaylan quit!
She gave no notice, no goodbye to the kids. Just gone!
That was nanny number eight.
I couldn’t ignore it anymore. Something had been wrong for a long time. So, I started digging.
I messaged every nanny we had ever hired. I found them on Facebook, Instagram, and even LinkedIn.
Most didn’t respond. Three blocked me the moment I hit send.
I started digging.
Then, one replied. Her name was Jenna. She was 24. Her message was simple:
“I’m sorry. I never wanted to hurt you. He told me you were separated.”
I typed back with shaky fingers.
“Were there others?”
She replied: “Ask Kaylan. She’s Brielle’s friend. According to Brielle, there’s more to the story.”
And then she blocked me.
“Ask Kaylan.”
I didn’t know how to find Kaylan at first, but I remembered her poetry. She had shown Ava her Instagram. I found the page filled with her writing — all haunting, all beautiful. I messaged her.
Minutes later, I got a reply: “Marissa… I’m so sorry. I didn’t know he had done this before. I quit because he wouldn’t accept no. I felt unsafe.”
I sat in silence, my fingers frozen over the keys.
I couldn’t stop picturing her on that couch.
How scared she must have felt. How young she really was!
I messaged her.
I walked into the kitchen, where Reed was pouring his coffee.
“Did you cheat on me with the nannies?”
“You’re almost 40. And I just… I wanted a connection. Some excitement. They admire me.”
“You’re a father of three. You hunted barely legal women while wearing a wedding ring!?”
“Did you cheat on me with the nannies?”
“You don’t understand men,” he muttered. “Women your age stop trying.”
My vision went black for a second!
He wanted admiration? Excitement?! Fine, I’d give him a crash course in what admiration looked like.
I chose not to yell or throw things. That would make me the crazy wife.
No, I played long.
“You don’t understand men.”
I filed for separation quietly. Then, I froze our joint accounts to protect myself and the kids.
After that, I contacted every nanny again. I reached out to the ones who blocked me on their other platforms.
“If Reed pressured you, harassed you, or touched you, I’m here. You’re not alone.”
And immediately, I got help!
One girl said she quit because Reed touched her thigh while adjusting Mason’s booster seat!
“…You’re not alone.”
Kaylan’s friend, Brielle, contacted me. She had been helping Kaylan promote her poetry on social media and saw my message in the request folder on LinkedIn. She messaged me.
“I think she wants to talk. She just didn’t know if it was safe.”
She said Kaylan had confided everything about the late-night “check-ins,” the constant compliments, the hand on the thigh, even the request to “keep secrets so Marissa doesn’t get jealous.”
She messaged me.
I realized my so-called husband had tried to manipulate them! He tried the same thing with all of them!
And I was done being quiet.
Through Brielle’s intervention, Kaylan agreed to speak. And then more messages trickled in.
I met with an employment attorney. I had to know if anything could be done — if there was any kind of justice possible for what he did to those girls.
I was done being quiet.
Since Reed hired them privately, paid them through our joint account, and used our home as their workplace, the attorney said there could be a case for a hostile work environment.
Even if criminal charges couldn’t stick, a civil suit might.
I asked Kaylan and three others if they would be willing to testify. They all said yes!
And then Reed did something so vile, so delusional, karma barely had to lift a finger.
They all said yes!
He tried to spin it! That man had the nerve to say the girls were flirting with him. He claimed they were obsessed and that he was the victim.
“I can’t help it if women throw themselves at me,” he told his brother on the phone, not knowing I was in the next room.
That’s when it hit me: he wasn’t just arrogant. He believed it!
He believed he had done nothing wrong.
It dawned on me that day that he would never change.
He believed it!
I sat at the dining table that night, my laptop open. I started writing recommendation letters.
I wrote one for each of the girls who had worked for us. I didn’t mention Reed or sling mud. I didn’t need to. My words did what his never could — they protected.
“She maintains appropriate professional boundaries at all times.”
It was a subtle line. He wouldn’t notice, even if he ever read them. But the girls would see it. They’d know someone believed them.
It was a subtle line.
I printed each one, folded it neatly, and slid it into a sealed envelope.
Then I met the four who would testify. I hugged them. Looked them in the eye and whispered:
“You don’t owe men like him anything. Keep your power.”
They cried. All of them. So did I!
“Keep your power.”
Two weeks later, amidst all the commotion behind the scenes, Reed had the nerve to bring in a new nanny!
I kid you not! She was 19. She was barely out of high school! Her name was Marlee. But that time, Reed didn’t anticipate the one person in the house who had been watching everything unfold.
Ava. My daughter.
I was there when she pulled Marlee aside in the foyer. She said loud enough for everyone to hear,
“Be careful. Daddy touches the nannies when Mommy sleeps.”
She was 19.
Marlee’s face paled! She grabbed her bag and ran out the door without even removing her shoes.
Reed stood frozen, his jaw twitching.
“What did you say to her?” he barked.
I walked over and stood between him and Ava.
“She told the truth,” I said.
We fought. It was loud and ugly. Mason started crying upstairs, and Lily came clinging to my leg, whimpering.
“What did you say to her?”
That night, Reed packed a duffel and finally left for a motel. I didn’t stop him.
Days passed, then weeks. His sister called me to say Reed’s job was on the line. Apparently, someone at his office had heard the rumors about the nannies. Reed had been demoted. Then they let him go.
“He says it’s all lies,” she told me. “He says you’re trying to destroy him.”
I didn’t answer. There was nothing left to say.
I didn’t stop him.
When he begged to come back, I told him,
“Actions have consequences. This is yours.”
The divorce was finalized almost a year later. I wish I could say rebuilding was easy. It wasn’t. There were nights when I curled up on the bathroom floor after the kids were asleep, wondering if I had made a mistake.
If I should’ve fought harder for our marriage. If I were strong enough to do this alone.
“…This is yours.”
But then, one evening just after dinner, the doorbell rang.
It was Elijah. Kaylan’s older brother. That 35-year-old man had driven over to thank me — not just for believing his sister, but for defending her when no one else had.
Elijah was soft-spoken, tall, with tired green eyes that appeared to have seen storms. He had a steady presence about him, like he wasn’t in a rush to fill the silence. Like he didn’t need to prove anything.
The doorbell rang.
We spoke for an hour on the porch.
Then another day. Then weekly dinners.
Then afternoons at the park with the kids.
Lily took to him instantly, and Ava seemed to study him the way she studied books — cautiously but curiously. Mason asked if he could help him build his Lego spaceship. Elijah said yes without hesitation.
He wasn’t intimidated by them. He admired them!
Elijah said yes without hesitation.
He listened to me. Held space for my anger, my grief, the parts of me that had been stripped down to nothing.
I didn’t have to explain why I flinched when someone brushed my shoulder. Or why I double-checked the locks every night.
One night, I was making boxed mac and cheese in the kitchen, and Elijah leaned against the counter, watching me with that same quiet gaze.
“Your husband broke you down because he feared your strength,” he said gently. “I fell for you because of it.”
“I fell for you because of it.”
He wasn’t offering validation. He was offering truth.
And that was the moment everything clicked. Reed chased youth because he was afraid of aging. Afraid of women who could see through him and scared of losing power.
But I didn’t need to be feared. I didn’t need to be admired for my age, or looks, or energy. I needed to be loved — for my strength, my resilience, my truth.
He was offering truth.
Next month, Elijah and I are getting married.
And Kaylan?
She’s going to be my maid of honor.
Sometimes the universe doesn’t just deliver karma. Sometimes, it writes poetry.
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